Edita wears | How to Bounce Back From A Dark Place?

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Edita in Will and Pop, Simply Be, La Bante and Dolce and Gabbana 10

Fashion Blogger Spring casual outfit

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Jeans: c/o Simply Be, Jacket: c/o Will and Pop, Pumps: Dolce & Gabbana, Bag: La Bante London
The way I conduct myself and the way I push forward, I have started feeling as if I am not allowed to feel down or saddened.

I had no one to share my lows with, I also did not want to share the fact that I was on a dark place, all by myself, with anyone. There I was, below rock bottom, telling everyone that I had “a really good weekend” and that I am feeling “much better”, only to cough my lungs out within the next five minutes.

“Dark place” is a location I am often a tourist at. No visas are needed, and border control is flexible upon entry, but exiting may include extra baggage. For me that manifests in:

  • Weight gain
  • Sharpening of my rosacea symptoms
  • Fatigue
  • Low self-esteem (actually, make that no self-esteem)
  • No self-worth
  • Apathy
  • No willingness to communicate or even take a shower
  • Low immunity

Pretty dark, this place of mine. Of course, all of these put together equate to becoming a vicious circle. Say, you already feel low in the self-worth front, and noticing weight gain may cause you to not be willing to be seen, hide at home. Of course, eating the same amount of food, with the only activity being turning from one side to another every three hours contributes back to the weight gain, and zero communication with the outside world feeds in nicely to a feeling of complete apathy. This circle is getting more and more solid, so why break such a solid structure? Everyone’s reason is different. Finding one, is one of the most important first steps.

I am not a licensed psychologist or psychiatrist, so I will base my advice on what worked for me, in the hope that this will help someone, anyone, at their darkest. If you are suffering from depression or suspect you are suffering from depression, it’s important you speak to a medical professional to address your symptoms. I am of the view that depression is an extremely serious diagnosis, and I don’t see being in a “dark place” at equal severity, however failure to address how you feel may lead to depression.

Here’s how I bounced back from my low point:

  1. Add an event to look forward to. If I know there’s something extremely exciting that’s on the cards soon, you can focus on how to enhance the upcoming experience. This lets you take your mind off “the now” and feel hopeful about what’s about to come. I booked a few travel destinations, which helps to occupy my mind with transporting myself there and daydreaming about the upcoming adventures.
  2. If your schedule and lifestyle allow, consider adopting a pet. My dog Zeus has changed my life. He loved me unconditionally and he was there for me throughout. He lay there quietly when I wouldn’t leave my bedroom for days. Just being there, sometimes tapping me with his paw, and licking my wrists when my fever was very high. This instinct-based behaviour helped me immensely to simply “snap” out of those mental dips and focus on that bundle of pure cuteness.
  3. Go to the park. Alone, or with someone, just go to the park. Breathe in air, and look into the distance. Staying in that moment helps. It’s a form of mindfulness if you manage to focus on not thinking about anything. Or, if watching series back to back helps you – do that instead. Only you know how to make your mind not think, at least for a moment.
  4. Don’t listen to generic advice that doesn’t apply to you. I know that some find help in speaking to people or talking about what haunts them. I sometimes do too. Other times I don’t want to talk as processing feelings within to let them go works much better for me. It took me quite some time to understand that there is nothing wrong in this. People forcing you to talk when you are not ready or willing are wrong. Also, they may just be the wrong audience. Focus on what helps you, not general best practice advice. This is not an one size fits all situation, you are not a jersey dress.
  5. Let go of stuff that annoys you about yourself. For example, I hate my stupid rosacea. I literally can’t stand it. Those red inflamed vessels on my face just piss me off. I can’t be one of those Instagrammers that wake up, take a snap of “hey this is me without make up, just woke up, flawless skin, much beauty selfie”. But the more I’d get angry about it, the more stressed I’d become, the more my rosacea would intensify. I decided to let it go. I bought some damn Double Wear by Estée Lauder and proceeded to live life. The redness subsided slightly as I stressed less. I started to feel that I was finally winning.

The images above are me on my way to bouncing back. You may look at the beautiful yellow colours, but all I see for now are weight gain and a fabulous job hiding my rosacea-infested skin. I am certainly working on getting better and because I braved it, and shot these at a time of zero self esteem, I know I will bounce back, and if you could relate to anything I wrote above, so will you. I know it.

A special mention goes out to Simply Be, who sent me a couple of jeans to try on and write about. Obviously, they didn’t know what I was going through. This brand now added sizes 8-10 to their vast selection of sizes. I felt these jeans were extra comfy, and that is something I definitely needed due to my yo-yo weight. Simply Be didn’t sponsor this post, by the way. Just thought you may find something there for yourself if your weight decided to run up and down.

Edita Reads | Under Another Light: Jewels and Ornaments Gianfranco Ferrè

Under Another Light Jewels and Ornaments Gianfranco Ferre Book Review

Under Another Light Jewels and Ornaments Gianfranco Ferre Book Review

Under Another Light Jewels and Ornaments Gianfranco Ferre Book Review

Under Another Light Jewels and Ornaments Gianfranco Ferre Book Review

Under Another Light Jewels and Ornaments Gianfranco Ferre Book Review

Under Another Light Jewels and Ornaments Gianfranco Ferre Book Review

Under Another Light Jewels and Ornaments Gianfranco Ferre Book Review

Under Another Light Jewels and Ornaments Gianfranco Ferre Book Review

Under Another Light Jewels and Ornaments Gianfranco Ferre Book Review

Under Another Light Jewels and Ornaments Gianfranco Ferre Book Review

Under Another Light Jewels and Ornaments Gianfranco Ferre Book Review

Under Another Light Jewels and Ornaments Gianfranco Ferre Book Review

Flicking through the pages of Under Another Light: Jewels and Ornaments Gianfranco Ferrè felt like looking into a mirror. Here I see Ferrè without a certain consistency. Yes, the architect of fashion did not focus on one look when it came to his bejewelled creations. Finally, someone with a similar lack of consistency as me in my style, someone whom I could relate to, someone who created to experiment, to build, and to push boundaries. I am not comparing myself to fashion’s architect, I am merely happy to see an almanac of works, rather than a book with a set look, zooming in on small variations on a single idea, that a lot of designers stick to as this is their trademark.

To me, Under Another Light is a book of photography that pushes you intellectually: You view the images, you interpret the pieces and only once you have analysed and understood the experiment that every item is, you decide whether or not you are warming up to the work, or as the book refers to it “body of jewellery”.

“In each jewel lies a world. Or rather, the world. Ever an object of incommensurate symbolic value, for me a jewel makes makes an infinite number of things tangible: references, refferals, glances at the most varied kinds of reality actual as well as dreamlike, from which I draw inspiration. Therefore, I do not feel the slightest difference between ‘dreaming’ a dress or a jewel. So the impulse to search for stimuli and suggestions is absolutely similar, in an infinitely heterogeneous dimension, with neither spatial nor temporal borders.” Gianfranco Ferrè

Truly, Gianfranco showcases a whole myriad of worlds in his jewellery:

  • Those that focus on beautiful workmanship make his trips to India evident. They open a world where you can imagine yourself entering an opulent room worthy of his majesty, the Maharaja, and peek into his jewellery box to find incredible traditional pieces. In this world, you are forgiven to forget that these were designed by Gianfranco Ferrè.
  • Those that mix wood, brass and copper reveal the designer’s love for working with unusual materials. The experimental, almost industrial, pieces displayed in the book can be worn even today by the trendiest folks from the hipster crowd.
  • Those that simply must be styled with hauntingly beautiful and almost ghostly chiffon dresses by McQueen. Although in your mind you understand that you are looking at metal work, your heart sees feather light, delicate, almost vulnerable jewellery pieces that portray frozen movement. In this world, Gianfranco made time freeze, and within it a captured emotion raring to get out, but never able to.
  • Those that embody luxury. Ferrè’s take on luxury jewellery is not like any other designer’s. In this world, he did not focus on what an elderly wealthy socialite might be keen on, although that segment of population was probably the only one able to afford his jewellery. Instead, he continued pushing his knowledge of architecture, building monumental pieces that would make the loudest statement in the room.

There are more “worlds” that you can discover in Gianfranco Ferrè’s jewellery – but you need to find them yourself. Use this book as a map, and every “world” you locate – a treasure. It’s an adventure you won’t regret embarking on.

Thank you Skira and Fouchard Filippi Communications for sending me a copy of the book to review.

Edita wears | 5 Ways to Wear Kitten Heels

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How to wear kitten heels, kitten heel outft, blogger in kitten heels

How to wear kitten heels, kitten heel outft, blogger in kitten heels

How to wear kitten heels, kitten heel outft, blogger in kitten heels

How to wear kitten heels, kitten heel outft, blogger in kitten heels

How to wear kitten heels, kitten heel outft, blogger in kitten heels

How to wear kitten heels, kitten heel outft, blogger in kitten heels

How to wear kitten heels, kitten heel outft, blogger in kitten heels

How to wear kitten heels, kitten heel outft, blogger in kitten heels

How to wear kitten heels, kitten heel outft, blogger in kitten heels

How to wear kitten heels, kitten heel outft, blogger in kitten heels

How to wear kitten heels, kitten heel outft, blogger in kitten heels

How to wear kitten heels, kitten heel outft, blogger in kitten heels

How to wear kitten heels, kitten heel outft, blogger in kitten heels

How to wear kitten heels, kitten heel outft, blogger in kitten heels

How to wear kitten heels, kitten heel outft, blogger in kitten heels

How to wear kitten heels, kitten heel outft, blogger in kitten heels

How to wear kitten heels, kitten heel outft, blogger in kitten heels


Jumper: Nine by Savannah Miller, Skirt: Boohoo, Kitten Heels: Roger Vivier, Bag: Louis Vuitton, Earrings: c/o Reilly Sparkles
Images by Tina Muller
When I showed my friend Tina, who volunteered to take photos of my look on a mega dreary February day instead of cosying up by a warm fire, the idea of shooting an outfit with kitten heels, she was horrified. She tried to hide her face dominated by disgust. Because my friend is nothing but honest, I saw her silently questioning my sanity, and I accepted it. After all, she is right, kitten heels can be damn ugly. But is there hope? If there is hope for crocs, there is hope for kitten heels. Of course, as the saying goes: Hope dies last. Let’s see if I can help you resurrect your love for kitten heels, or if not, I’ll bring a shovel and help you bury them in a deep dark forrest.

5 Ways to Wear Kitten Heels & Not Look Like You’ve Given Up

  1. Opt for black pointy kitten heels with cropped cigarette pants, white shirt and a camel coat. This is definitely a look you can rock while signing a million pound business deal.
  2. Consider investing in classic designer kitten heels – think Manolos or in my case above Roger Viviers – and mix it with a trend-led outfit. A balance between trendy and classic is always a good idea. It’s what creates personal style.
  3. Match statement kitten heels with a minimalist ensemble. Go kitten heel crazy, from space age to vintage, as long as the rest of the outfit boasts clear lines, neutral colours and simple geometric jewellery.
  4. Play with textures & fabrics: If you are wearing a white chiffon or crepe de chine dress, go for a baby pink or beige suede kitten heel mule.
  5. Play with colour: If it’s a jeans-and-a-nice-top kind of day, just contrast it with a yellow/orange/pink/red kitten heel.

Whichever way you decide to go, kitten heels are best worn with an unapologetic attitude and a sassy hair flick.

Also, my friend ended up warming up to the kitten heels in the photos above. They may not be besties as yet, but they have become much deeper than mere acquaintances.

Edita wears | How to Modernise a Vintage Blazer?

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Blazer: Moschino, Denim: c/o Tobi, Bag: Chanel, Pumps: Marks and Spencer, Sunglasses: AND/OR
Images by Tina Muller
I love wearing vintage blazers. In fact, I love them much more than their modern counterparts. This is because they are full of character and often have something beautifully unusual about them. Going for vintage is also a savvy way to get designer brands for much less!

But not everyone is keen on the character part. It maybe hard to find the balance between looking like you’ve just travelled through time and you are taking inspiration from an era. Not to worry, this is where I can help you. Here’s how to modernise a vintage blazer stylistically, without reaching out for a needle and thread:

  1. Make your vintage blazer your accent piece. While you can add a brooch or earrings, make sure you are referencing one era with a showstoppper aka your blazer and a small nod aka your vintage accessory choice. Anything more may take your outfit backwards instead of fashion forward.
  2. Sleeves up. Literally. Roll up your sleeves if you are uncomfortable with the length of the sleeves or their cut. Go for about 3/4 of the length for a relaxed feel.
  3. Drape. White shirt, a blazer draped over your shoulders, some serious cigarette trousers, and it looks like you mean business.
  4. Wear your hair down. If you managed to snatch a blazer of your dreams but it comes with those 80s shoulder pads that are sewn in underneath the lining, a visit to the seamstress may be in the cards. However, if you have long hair, wear it down the first time you rock your vintage blazer. This will soften the accentuated shoulder. Also, hopefully this will allow you to not mind the shoulder pad look that much! I personally love it as it shapes the silhouette nicely and gives structure to the ensemble… plus makes your waist look smaller.
  5. Wear unbuttoned with a white shirt, boyfriend or mom jeans and a classic bag for a relaxed yet I’m-definitely-chic look. Some vintage blazers look too old-fashioned when buttoned up as their intended shapes can be outdated – a lot of 80s ones are guilty of this. But if you style them unbuttoned with a casual look in mind, they will add that nonchalant je ne sais quoi to your ensemble. But as a quick reminder, elements of fashion tend to come back every 30 years, so you may be loving the shape of your blazer tomorrow even if you are cringing today!